Innate Wholeness

Clarity.
Intention.
Trust.

It’s that simple.

Questions?  Start with clarity…

This post is as much for me, as it is for you.

Parenting is one of those experiences in life that allows someone the opportunity to really grow.  On the inside, outside, and everything in between.

The past 9+ years have been quite the journey for me and I currently find myself feeling like it is time for me to hibernate a bit with my kids and with myself as a mom.

In that sense, Christine is coming back on to assist with coaching, RT calls, and ideas!   Our roles have shifted a bit and while Christine took some time to herself and her family, she is now ready to offer some wisdom that parents will definitely benefit from.  My focus will be mostly on energy healing to help people move through blocks and anchor into their own strength and Christine and I will collaborate on RT for Parents, Metamorphosis Moments, and private coaching.

On a side note, in July I will be completing a fantastic training with parenting experts Chick Moorman and Thomas Haller of www.uncommonparenting.com.  They created the Parent Talk System Facilitator Training for parents just like us ) – those who respect children as equals and want to treat them as such – in all moments.  Earlier this year I went to a 2 hour talk with Thomas and left fully refreshed!  I look forward to offering more classes and workshops based on the Parent Talk work and my own experience this coming fall.

For now, as I tend to my maternal instinct that says “go internal” and focus on the needs of myself and my family, I welcome you to also look at how you can benefit from hibernation – an intense focus on what does work for you and yours with an emphasis on making it your moment to moment experience.

Much Love,
Amy

Stop. Think of Love… with children.

Whether you are a parent, grandparent, sibling, or someone who simply interacts with children by watching them with their parents in the grocery store, you have an impact in a developing person’s life.

Children come from Love. Just observe a little baby and how people croon over them. Why? People can feel very strongly the pure love that emanates.

While our world is still far from treating children as equals, you can pioneer the path simply through doing one thing when it comes to relating with children…

Stop. Think of Love.

Okay, my child, grand child, or someone else’s child is being really annoying right now and I simply don’t like how he or she is behaving. I’d like to tell her how wrong she is for acting bad and out of our cultural norms. She needs to know.

And yet, the best way I can show her how to behave is to be an example.

An example of love.

A true demonstration of Martin Luther King Jr.’s quote, “Hate cannot drive out have, only love can do that.”

I might be angry, but this child’s need for peace and well being is greater than my need to vent and put her down.

I love her and as I show that love, acceptance, and belief that she is and can be her best possible self, she will blossom.

I am contributing to the healthy development of a new generation – in effect, a new Earth.

All through simply stopping to think of love with all children I encounter.

Amy Christine Bush is a spiritual teacher and healer who helps parents and others simply make the most of their lives, now.

The beauty of parenting in the present is that each moment is new. And each moment is only happening right now. Some parents get caught up in the idea that they aren’t doing it right or that it’s this way, and not that way. When you begin parenting in the present, it is important to remember that you’re always doing your best with the information and resources you have available and you are always exactly where you need to be. If there is one thing you take away from this site, please remember the truth of that statement. Guilt only serves as a signal that change could be beneficial; it is not meant to be carried around. (more…)

What exactly do we mean by being present as a parent?

The focus here is to connect with our foundation – one of simply being. We do things all day long. We clean, we shop, we cook, we clean some more (or maybe not), we eat, we clothe the kids, we run them here and there. We are largely do-ers. Except that we’re not. The term for our species is human being, not doing. (more…)

Read or Tell a Story

Loving our children is something we do without even thinking of it, yet really loving everything about them is also something that we might benefit from experiencing in full detail more often.

Take time out to read a story – really read it, feel it, see it, hear it – with your child. Pretend you’re the child, or you’re in the story. Or tell a story. Even over children, teens, and adult children appreciate a good story!

If you don’t want to tell it by yourself, simply ask if anyone wants to tell one with you and take turns adding parts. You might come up with a very interesting story line! Enjoy ).

Have you ever just wanted to take a break from parenting? Just take off your Mom or Dad hat and walk out the door? Come on, it happens to the best of us at least once ;o).

Here’s permission (not that you need it from me) to take a break! Although you can never take a 100% break, you can trust your child(ren) in the care of a loved one or friend and spend some time nurturing yourself. Really. It’s so worth your time and you’ll feel all refreshed when you reunite with your kids.

If taking a break with the child is in another’s care isn’t possible, go in the bathrooom for 60 seconds and take deep breaths while you repeat “I am the most awesome person and parent. I love me.” It will transform you life.

One of the first things to keep in mind while dealing with a child who is argumentative is that he or she is an equal human being – no better or worse than you. And that your child really wants to get along. Repeat that to yourself and see if you also feel the same way.

My mother told me early on that my Grandma would often ward off an argument by simply saying, “I love you too much to argue.” That works wonders when you know you have to be the “big” one and just stop because it takes two to argue.

When arguing becomes commonplace, it is because of power issues. Someone (most likely everyone) wants to be right. Someone must concede. That is hard for many parents to do because we’re the bigger ones and we’re “supposed” to be in charge… Sometimes being in charge looks like figuring out how to lead with confidence, instead of control.

Think about how you’d like the discussions to go between yourself and your child. How do you want to be talked to? Start there and be the example.

It might include something along the lines of “I appreciate being talked to respectfully.” Then continue with that in mind – your child feels the same way.

Give your child concrete ideas of how to talk with you. “If you don’t like what I’m proposing you can tell me by asking for other options.”

When we feel honored, and our children feel honored it is easier to have discussions that don’t turn into battles. Until that happens, though, you can simply be the one to stop the argument.

Can you recall a time when you were a child and someone asked you to ‘tell the truth’?

If you felt pressured, you were probably afraid of getting into trouble.

How about this?  As a parent, decide that you will model how to tell the truth.  Not just in standard situations, but in all areas.

If you need a bit of space, tell the truth about how you are feeling – and start by telling the truth to *yourself*.  Look around your life and check in with how you truthfully feel about it.  Allow yourself to tell the truth and let the honesty emanate from you.

Both you and your child will benefit.

Common sense tells us to get outside when it’s warm, but sometimes our daily activities keep us inside nearly all of the hours the sun is shining!

To that I say: Do it anyway!

Consider yourself someone who enjoys Outside Parenting ;o).

If you need a change of pace, go outside – even if for 15 minutes! Warm or cold, going outside to get in touch with nature (even if it’s a *small* patch of grass in the city) will help you gain a new perspective so you can appreciate your relationship with your child and the world all the more.

It’s free, too ).

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